Because personality is the innermost layer of your “personhood,” it’s easy (and very common) to lose sight of your personality. In fact, most people are (a)unaware of their personalities because from early childhood, they have spent most of their time adopting out-of-sync identities that completely mask their natural personalities. More often than not, the environments of our youth (for example, the way our parents raise us, the way society interacts with us, and the way our culture shapes us) (b)mislead us as adults into thinking we are one kind of person-when we are really another!
As children, we are surrounded by families and societies and cultures that are constantly making impressions on us, giving us (c)feedback about how we should be in the world, and teaching us “the right” ways to behave, the “right” thoughts and feelings to have, and the “right” groups to join. Although we come into the world being one way (our personalities), we often receive messages over time, from these (d)outside influences, that there are drawbacks to being our true selves and rewards for adopting identities that are out-of-sync with our true selves. So instead of developing behaviors, thoughts, and relationships that support our true selves, we develop ones that will (e)disappoint the people in our lives.
*out-of-sync: 맞지 않는